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There is no man-in-the-house in my little household. I have to be the man in my little man’s life. This means, lifting the heavy stuff in the house, or checking the wires and the circuits, or accompanying him during his circumcision. I tell you, I am terrible at these mechanical stuff but I have no choice. Usually after a few hours or a few mishaps and a dazzling display of my plumbing/electrical skills, things turn out alright.
So I am daddy in the house, but can I be daddy in school? Lorenz is a member of the Scouts in his school. They will have a Father-Son Camping and a Mother-Daughter Camping next month. Oh c’mon! I have to ask the school if having no dad disqualifies my son for camping. C’mon, c’mon. Can I go instead and be the dad? I hope the school says yes or else Lorenz will have to miss camping or I will have to find a male (tito, grandpa, friend) to be a pseudo dad for him at that event. Gosh, I hope there will be no gender-specific school activities that will preclude kids of single-parent homes. If you talk about Father-Son Camping, I can be Lorenz’ daddy but I just can’t be a man.
Tes said in her comment that there are certain things only a father and a son can share or a mother and daughter can share. As she said, it’s a bitter pills to swallow but it’s true. For instance, gender may play a big factor in how a person view experiences or situations. As a woman, I may not be able to relate to a man’s views. That is why a father-figure is important for a child raised in a single-mother household. I try to expose my son to positive father-figure influences from his grandfathers and from uncles and even friends or co-workers of mine. As single moms, we need all the help we can get.
Being the dad or mom all at the same time is a tall order. I guess the best way in trying to be both dad and mom to our kids is just to love and take care of them the best way we know how. Though it may not be all smooth sailing- see, my bulbs still keep on exploding and I can’t attend that Father-Son shindig! =)
Lorenz likes the sedentary lifestyle. He plays video games. He reads and watches TV a lot. He is terribly good with computers and electronics. He often tells me that when he grows up he wants to be known as a geek not a jock. Lorenz is also very competitive. And being an only child, he is used to all to all the attention showered upon him.
Hmm. I don’t want him to grow up as a loner or a self-centered person. So what better way to teach him about cooperation and tearing him away from video games than…..team sports!
It was either soccer or basketball. Milo conducts summer basketball clinics. And my son’s school Colegio San Agustin has soccer lessons during summer and even during school days. Non-CSA students can enroll in the CSA soccer program as well.
I enrolled him in soccer. Good thing that he was intruiged by that sport after watching a Manchester United game. So far, he is enjoying soccer. His position is a defender because he said that being a defender didn’t require much running and kicking. Smart move, Lorenz. =)
Well, at least he’s on the field and not in front of the TV or computer all the time!
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Contact Info:
Milo Basketball Clinic: (02) 9147111
Colegio San Agustin Soccer : (02) 8439998 (look for Coach Mario)
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